Relationship Checking Account
Dear friend,
One of the most important lessons I ever learned about
dog training is the one I'm about to share with you. I learned it
about eight years ago while attending a seminar.
I can't remember who said it, but it has stayed with
me for a long time.
It has helped me many, many times when I have taught
dog owners how to apply it while they were learning to train their dogs.
When I first started training dogs I learned from some
very harsh trainers. I was taught to punish any behavior I didn't
like. I was taught to use force to teach dogs obedience.
Many of the dogs that were trained this way would
eventually show signs of aggression, or the dog would just start to shut
down. You could see changes in their behavior.
All of this was very depressing to me.
Until...
I learned about the Relationship Checking Account. You see, your dog is a product
of his or her environment. If a dog
is brought up in an angry, aggressive household - there is a very good
chance that the dog will become aggressive.
Think of it this way. Every time you do
something negative to your dog (yell, scruff shake, smack, leash
correction, etc.), you are making a withdrawal from your Relationship
Checking Account.
Every time you do something positive (pet, play,
treat, feed, etc.), you are making a deposit.
Here's the important point. You have to make
more deposits than withdrawals in your Relationship Checking Account
with your dog.
If you have more withdrawals than deposits, the
relationship with your dog will bounce faster than a hot check!
Think of the relationships you have with your friends
or relatives. Have you ever avoided a phone call from someone you
know because all they will do is nag or complain. Have you ever
told someone you were "too busy" because you knew that going somewhere
with them would be dreadful.
We have relationship checking accounts with everyone
we know. If a relationship is filled with deposits we will spend
and enjoy our time with those people.
If the relationship is filled with withdrawals, we
will white lie, procrastinate, and avoid spending time with those people.
Your dog is stuck with you. We will all have to
make withdrawals at some time. It happens in any relationship, but
we want to make sure that we have made enough deposits so the
Relationship Checking Account won't bounce.
All the best from your friend...
The Amazing Dog Training Man
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